Thursday, December 22, 2016

Women, Do not Settle for Less than Your Knight: A Letter

Dear Women,

You deserve to be sought and pursued and treasured. You deserve a man who sees how blessed he is to have you and who reminds himself every day, especially on the hard days, why you are so special, why you deserve so much of his love, how you are beautiful and talented, how you get him to smile, how he can confide in you better than even some of his best blokes.

You deserve to be loved and made to feel like you are loved. You deserve to be loved even on days when you’re broken, not just on the days that you make him happy or the days you’re in a good mood. You deserve a man who will sacrifice everything to make sure you are okay, who will never leave you alone, who will check up on you later in the day multiple times if he by chance has to work and cannot be by your side.

Women, do not settle for less than your dreams. Do not settle for men who do not recognize your worth or will not act. You deserve to be pursued by a knight; you do not need to settle for a man who doesn’t want to fight for you, who’d rather it be easy. You want a man who will work for you and run through fire for you and not count the scars.

You deserve a man who respects you, who will treat you like a queen, who will protect you not only from his own sinful inclinations, but even from those around you. A real man will not let even his friends get away with belittling you or making you feel at all uncomfortable. The man you want will shield you from danger, will take you out of tempting situations, will suggest you stop watching a movie or show which he perceives harmful to your virtue.

A real man will pray with and for you. He will prove to be that sturdy pillar of Faith, which is an essential foundation to a good Catholic home. He will help you be a better woman, by gently (keyword: gently), pointing out things you need to work on in such a manner you will not feel discouraged and in such a manner you will, rather, feel encouraged to strive for even higher.

Together, in the fire of God’s love, you two are meant to be shaped into the image of Christ.   

Your friend, Cara

Saturday, December 17, 2016

Dressing Modestly

Modesty is important to me. It is not that I'm ashamed in any way of my figure; in fact, it is the complete opposite that incites me to properly clothe it. It is not just for any man to lust after. It is meant for that special man who is meant to be my husband. It is a gift from God, and I am not going to toss pearls to swine.

Now, that being said, I do not want to dress in a sack of potatoes or anything. I want to dress like any girl wants to dress. I want to look pretty, while at the same time being modest. It is so hard when you go to the store and basically everything is in some way immodest or when models give us women the impression that pretty is sleeveless tops and mini skirts. 

Modesty is kindness. You hear people say that it doesn't matter how you dress, but really it does. It is charity to dress modestly. As a woman, you are elevating that young man's heart and his eyes. He is drawn more to your face, to you as a person when you dress in a way that demands respect. He isn't as distracted by your figure. Not that you can hide your figure completely and not to say that somebody who really wants to sin won't, but at least you make it easier for those men who are actually striving to be gentlemen. 

How you dress reflects the interior. If you dress in a way that is sleazy or even messy, you give the impression that you have little worth or are lazy. Neither may be true, but it doesn't stop people from even indirectly judging you as such, and thus attracts the wrong relationships. 

A woman plays a vital role in society. Her ability to influence even the hardest of hearts is remarkable. A good woman ought to uplift and inspire. Dressing modestly is just one little way she can do this.

Below are some pictures of me wearing eshakti designed clothes. Eshakti allows me to customize my outfits so as better to be able to convey my self-worth, while still allowing me to be fashionable. I highly recommend them.

Another modest clothing store I like, though it can be slightly expensive, is Dainty Jewells. They feature some really classy dresses. I bought swimwear from them this summer. The dress fell a lot further down on short me than it did the model, and I was worried it would be problematic swimming that way, but so far I've yet to drown. There's netting underneath which I think prevents the dress from sticking so much and possibly makes it safer to wear. I've swum with it in the pool and ocean and I'm still alive. You can find the dress here: