Thursday, December 22, 2016

Women, Do not Settle for Less than Your Knight: A Letter

Dear Women,

You deserve to be sought and pursued and treasured. You deserve a man who sees how blessed he is to have you and who reminds himself every day, especially on the hard days, why you are so special, why you deserve so much of his love, how you are beautiful and talented, how you get him to smile, how he can confide in you better than even some of his best blokes.

You deserve to be loved and made to feel like you are loved. You deserve to be loved even on days when you’re broken, not just on the days that you make him happy or the days you’re in a good mood. You deserve a man who will sacrifice everything to make sure you are okay, who will never leave you alone, who will check up on you later in the day multiple times if he by chance has to work and cannot be by your side.

Women, do not settle for less than your dreams. Do not settle for men who do not recognize your worth or will not act. You deserve to be pursued by a knight; you do not need to settle for a man who doesn’t want to fight for you, who’d rather it be easy. You want a man who will work for you and run through fire for you and not count the scars.

You deserve a man who respects you, who will treat you like a queen, who will protect you not only from his own sinful inclinations, but even from those around you. A real man will not let even his friends get away with belittling you or making you feel at all uncomfortable. The man you want will shield you from danger, will take you out of tempting situations, will suggest you stop watching a movie or show which he perceives harmful to your virtue.

A real man will pray with and for you. He will prove to be that sturdy pillar of Faith, which is an essential foundation to a good Catholic home. He will help you be a better woman, by gently (keyword: gently), pointing out things you need to work on in such a manner you will not feel discouraged and in such a manner you will, rather, feel encouraged to strive for even higher.

Together, in the fire of God’s love, you two are meant to be shaped into the image of Christ.   

Your friend, Cara

Saturday, December 17, 2016

Dressing Modestly

Modesty is important to me. It is not that I'm ashamed in any way of my figure; in fact, it is the complete opposite that incites me to properly clothe it. It is not just for any man to lust after. It is meant for that special man who is meant to be my husband. It is a gift from God, and I am not going to toss pearls to swine.

Now, that being said, I do not want to dress in a sack of potatoes or anything. I want to dress like any girl wants to dress. I want to look pretty, while at the same time being modest. It is so hard when you go to the store and basically everything is in some way immodest or when models give us women the impression that pretty is sleeveless tops and mini skirts. 

Modesty is kindness. You hear people say that it doesn't matter how you dress, but really it does. It is charity to dress modestly. As a woman, you are elevating that young man's heart and his eyes. He is drawn more to your face, to you as a person when you dress in a way that demands respect. He isn't as distracted by your figure. Not that you can hide your figure completely and not to say that somebody who really wants to sin won't, but at least you make it easier for those men who are actually striving to be gentlemen. 

How you dress reflects the interior. If you dress in a way that is sleazy or even messy, you give the impression that you have little worth or are lazy. Neither may be true, but it doesn't stop people from even indirectly judging you as such, and thus attracts the wrong relationships. 

A woman plays a vital role in society. Her ability to influence even the hardest of hearts is remarkable. A good woman ought to uplift and inspire. Dressing modestly is just one little way she can do this.

Below are some pictures of me wearing eshakti designed clothes. Eshakti allows me to customize my outfits so as better to be able to convey my self-worth, while still allowing me to be fashionable. I highly recommend them.

Another modest clothing store I like, though it can be slightly expensive, is Dainty Jewells. They feature some really classy dresses. I bought swimwear from them this summer. The dress fell a lot further down on short me than it did the model, and I was worried it would be problematic swimming that way, but so far I've yet to drown. There's netting underneath which I think prevents the dress from sticking so much and possibly makes it safer to wear. I've swum with it in the pool and ocean and I'm still alive. You can find the dress here:

Wednesday, November 30, 2016

Is Racism Really Prevalent in America and How Should We Respond?

Is racism really dominant in America? For the most part, no. In fact, according to many polls, America is listed as the least racist country. Does it exist? Yes.

Interestingly enough, in a poll done by Ramussen Reports, "Among black Americans, 31% think most blacks are racist, while 24% consider most whites racist and 15% view most Hispanics that way." (2013, Lifestyle, n.p) In a poll done to exploit the most racist countries in the world, America was not listed. (n.a, 2016, n.p). Of course, we cannot turn our eyes from the issue; we can't say it doesn't exist, when it still does. Bullying exists and always will. People are judged all of the time on their appearance, whether they are fat, skinny, pretty, or ugly. Now, how do we address the situation. Well, in my opinion, what we should do is teach our children that somebody's skin color, hair color, eye color, or weight means nothing in itself; it is the soul that matters, and we should not be mean or judgmental only based on somebody's outward appearance, something they cannot change which does not define them.

If we stop bullying people because of what they look like, then the world is a happier place not just for blacks but people who are not "pretty" enough or "thin" enough compared to the models on the magazines. We need to look at the core and address that issue, not just help the blacks, for instance, but ignore the other races that have less of an issue; we need to teach kids that what someone looks like doesn't matter period and not focus purely on "race" so to speak. I don't' see how teaching that is counterproductive toward racism since it would seem to me that that would help much more than going on about how us privileged whites don't get it, because it's not like we haven't suffered some form of bullying based on our looks which can be compared to a racist attack in so far as it's emotionally damaging and more or less not too different except "racism" is toward a group and there's a form of "power" involved from the race that is formed up of more individuals (Irving, 2016, n.p), but, still, our race is human and to pinpoint that there are more whites in the government doesn't mean anything necessarily since it wasn't (we would hope) the color of their skin that got them there but their qualifications and probably who they knew. Also, to make whites feel like they don't understand and don't get it and don't suffer is not going to help because we all suffer and it's empathy that pushes the other to react, not a finger pointing at them. It is better to say, "didn't it hurt your feelings when Molly made fun of your curly hair? Well, so-and-so is made fun of because of their skin..." that works much better than "You don't know what it's like to be so-and-so because you're privileged and have never suffered any form of racism." That is only going to make whoever you're speaking to get defensive or offended since you know nothing of their life and you are seemingly making an assumption (that they're privileged) based on their skin color, something they have no control over and, for all you know, maybe, individually, they are the furthest from being privileged.

This all being said, we should reflect on the positive, that as the years progress, racism becomes less and less of an issue and America with its immense diversity is comparatively probably one of the least racist countries since, when your neighbor is black/asian/Spanish, and you have formed a relationship of some kind with them, it is much harder to see skin color as anything more than an exterior appearance that does not make a person who they are.

Found in an article written by Kyle Becker here

Links to sites mentioned:

2016. n.a. Website found at:

Irving. 2016.

Tuesday, November 29, 2016

A Guest Post: A Parable by Thomas Naegele

This is a guest post from Tom Naegele. You can check out his blog by clicking his name. I was very much moved by this post of his below the picture. We will not be happy until God is the center of our lives. Until then, those seemingly pointless tasks of sweeping the floor and cleaning the dishes will seem very insignificant, but if we make God the center at all times and do those tasks for love of Him, well, then, how great will they become then?
There once lived a tiny seed who wished to become a great and beautiful tree. He spent many years trying everything in his power to germinate, sprout, and grow. He worked tirelessly at it every single day of his life, but it was seemingly all to no avail.
Finally, after many years of persevering in hard work, the seed was at last able to bury himself in a bit of soil and begin the germination process. But alas, our poor seed could make it no further. The soil he had found was in a cold and dark environment, and he received none of the essential sunlight and water. Consequently, this poor, miserable seed simply withered away back into the nothingness from which he came. He never achieved his goal of becoming a great and beautiful tree.
Such is the sad story of many a life today.
We set lofty goals for our lives, we work diligently and tirelessly towards those goals, and yet we often fail miserably. Why? It is because we so often attempt to do everything ourselves. We obsess over the idea of becoming something, so we madly seek out soil–any soil–in which we can begin the germination process. We sacrifice everything to have a little success, but we ignore the essential elements of growth.
Sunlight and water are necessary for any life to grow beyond the germination process. Sunlight is the presence of God in our souls, and water is His graces pouring down from Heaven. If we ever wish for any real success in our lives, we must have these two vital elements.
It is possible to find a little, temporary success without the element of God in our lives, but it will only be a fleeting moment. Very soon we will wilt, and we will die. We will go back to the nothingness from which we came. We will have wasted our lives without ever accomplishing anything of value.
But if we would only welcome the ever-burning sun of God into our lives, and then open our souls to receiving His infinite graces, what success we will encounter! What great and beautiful examples of life we shall become. Do this today, dear readers. We must stop trying to become something on our own. We must turn to Him, the source of all life, and ask for His help.

Monday, November 28, 2016

Survival of the Fittest

Society tries to brainwash us into believing that things such as abortion and euthanasia are not only empowering but also merciful and if we disagree then we are not only ignorant but cruel. How dare us impose on “women’s rights”; how dare us discredit her life or tell her what do with “her body”. How dare us prolong the suffering of these poor people who are already dying.  

Well, if euthanasia is okay, then so is suicide. And if abortion is okay, then so is murder. Come on, Society, stop pretending that one is okay and one isn’t; either you cross the line or you don’t. You can’t have your feet in two places at once. You can’t say murder is wrong and abortion isn’t. You can’t say suicide is cowardly but euthanasia is freeing.

Today many have the mentality of beasts; it is all about survival of the fittest for them. And yet, many aren’t even aware that that is what is going on, but it is. Even if we were to accept euthanasia as merciful, it could easily be abused. Abuse is everywhere, especially in the medical field, and who is to say this poor woman whose husband wants her dead since he doesn’t want to care for her anymore, isn’t going to be given euthanasia solely due to her guardian’s decision and not her own? So many people in this world think they have a right to say who lives or dies whether it be a baby or somebody who is sick. Most turn their eyes from that harsh reality and go on still claiming that euthanasia and abortion are good choices, but when it's them, will they still say their guardian has a right to kill them?

Our society is not kind or empowering when it imposes its verdict of death on those who are weak and small, who may not yet have a voice of their own. We are meant to love. We are meant to treasure life, to be a voice to the voiceless, a crutch to the crippled, and a friend to the brokenhearted.